Subjective Digressions

A reminder to myself on the fragility of the blessing known as friendship,

Friends.People we place faith in to get things done.People who understand us for what we are and also make an effort to prod us in the right way to see us become better people.Not to forget,people who are there not only on your greatest days,but also in your lowest moments.Well,that's MY definition of 'friends' anyway.What are the main pillars of friendship that keep it going for the limitless trials that the parties may face,you may ask?Well...

Trust.Understanding.Giving in when the time is right,to save the friendship instead of giving priority to our egos.And last but not least,to remind each other of their presence in their lives.To remind them that they are not alone in facing their hardships.At whatever life has in store for them.

Some of you might wonder,"How do you know or even notice these things?"

Well if people actually shut their mouths and make an effort to notice the little things other people do for them,they'd know.We humans tend to notice that one mistake someone makes among the thousands of good deeds they've done for their friends.You see,that's what makes us humans insecure about the people around us.We don't look at things from a larger scope.Hate on me if you want,but I believe a horrifyingly large amount of people in this world have narrow minds.They don't try to look at things from a different perspective,or a larger scope,for that matter.And what happens when this lack of understanding occurs?

Trust begins to dangle by a thread.Ready to snap at any moment.

That friendship you've built up?Left in shambles.All because you didn't understand that one friend that needed you the most.Scarred,you begin blaming your past,or more specifically,the people in it,for the state you found yourself in.No,that's not it.Being selfish,that's what it's called.When you begin blaming the people around you,ask yourself this: Aren't you actually crying out for attention and understanding from the people around you?Why hunger for the very same thing you couldn't give the people you lost not too long ago?What are you expecting when you cry out looking for someone to sate your lust for attention and understanding when you were too selfish to give it yourself?Have some food for thought.

Falling out with our friends is part of the 'friendship' process.Arguing just simply births a chance to strengthen the bonds even stronger than before.

I've fallen out with many different people.Some I wish I could talk to again.Some,never at all.

And you...Snow.I understand why you had to do it.Don't hate yourself for it.Don't feel as if you owe us a favour for doing so.I know the phase you're going through.Be strong.We're no longer talking,but always remember,I've always understood you.I will,for the years to come.I know you're stronger than this.Don't falter.

-D.A~